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David is doing well with Time4learning.  We have made the decision; however, to not pay for a subscription for him.  After all, we did buy him a curriculum which he is doing just fine with.  It has certainly encouraged me to allow him to use the kids’ computer more often for learning games.  If you know me, allowing my kids to touch anything electronic is tough for me…big step for Mommy!  (yay me)

If you are looking for a way to save money on your children’s curriculum http://www.time4learning.com is a great place to start!!

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My Mother and Father In Law have purchased some school supplies for us this past week.  The kids and I are all thankful!

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(they are all lined up with their new pencil boxes)

I have a question about children with sensory issues.  Mayah is constantly  fidgeting with something to touch.  Let her be?  Suggestions?  Thanks;)

I’m also having a catalog party for Pampered Chef so if you’re interested in any items please ask me:  dziagwax6@gmail.com or order from this site: 

http://www.pamperedchef.biz/cookingwlisa?page=home

Just enter my name:  Tammy Dziagwa for the hostess, please.

If you’re local, I can deliver it…if not just click on the separate shipping choice.

I noticed this morning before Dan left for work, Mayah has zero physical connection to him.  Yes, she gives hugs-but watching her hug her Daddy was akin to me hugging the pedestal fan.  Dan has realized he needs to seek her out a bit more and hug her, sit next to her, just simply be close.  It’s difficult to realize when your almost 8 year old daughter doesn’t think she needs to be held and grow in physical bonding with her parents.  I have made a strong strong STRONG effort to constantly try to touch her in a loving way.  Holding hands, rubbing her face, stroking her hair while we’re cuddling on the chair in her room.  It has taken a long time but it is finally paying off.  I desire to be close to her now, just like I desire to be touching the boys and showing Mama’s love the way I’m supposed to.  Mayah also seeks me out for hugs and kisses and nice gentle touches.  It’s extremely rewarding.    #redemption

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  1. Hi Tammy, I do not have any experience with SI issues (we are still in the adoption process), but I read a book “Parenting Your Internationally Adopted Child” by Patty Cogen. After reading the book, I created a summary of the information provided in the book. I reviewed my summary, and found the following information relating to SI. I am not sure if will be applicable to Mayah or not, but here it is:

    Teaching Your Child to Self-Soothe and Self-Calm
    Children from orphanages expect neglect.
    Checking in with a parent is a family skill: a child needs to receive soothing and comfort.
    When a child expects neglect, he finds ways to manage feelings of anxiety, fatigue, fear, or loneliness.
    Sucking is a common and easily recognizable self-soothing behavior.
    Odd Soothing Behaviors: Repetitive hair twisting Pulling hair out strand by strand Nail biting
    Compulsive nose picking
    Head banging Repeated twisting or tensing of muscles Grimacing
    Tics or tic-like behavior
    A Child’s Stress Response is Modified by the following Braking System: Accelerator Foot Brake Emergency Brake
    Some orphanage children will be missing a Foot Brake. They go from Accelerator directly to Emergency Brake as well as Emergency Brake to Accelerator
    Parenting Strategies to Activate the Foot Brake and Build Soothing & Calming 1.) Limiting Stimulation: (few toys, calm days, relaxing time, be simple) 2.) Sucking and Breathing Routines: (hold her or keep her on your left side, let her drink from a sippy cup, juice box, or sucking water bottle, talk to her, and make eye contact)
    3.) Listening to Music: (sing to her, play classical cd, let her quietly play while listening, no lyrics on cd) 4.) Singing: (choose very simple repetitive songs, repeat songs or a series of songs)
    5.) Movement and Music: (rock back & forth while singing row, row, row your boat, play ring around the rosy, use a song and dance at the end of a daily routine)
    Time-Ins for Relaxations Tell her “Your behavior is telling me that you need a special quite time with Mom/Dad”.
    Do not worry about educating her immediately about good behavior. She will listen better when she is calmer. Some children need a spatial change (moving to a different room), some need oral stimulation (sucking), and some prefer movement or singing. You must actively guide her toward the self-calming activities that work best for her.
    Remember: Telling her story from her point of view in itself is a soothing and calming technique.
    Sensory-Motor Integration & Stimulation Management
    Children feel soothed by broad deep pressure on their bodies. Two ways to do this are “beanbag baths” & massages.
    Beanbag baths: laying large (7 inch sq.) beanbags on your body and your child’s body
    Massages: start with the feet (you can play the “this little piggy game” too)
    2 Types of SI Dysfunctions Discrimination Dysfunction: such as reaching into a pocket and not being able to tell the difference between a toothpick and a tissue. Defensiveness Dysfunction: such as not being able to bear touching one or more items in your pocket.
    Some kids are so hypersensitive that they avoid certain sounds, textures or odors
    A child with SI Dysfunction is a child with a disorganized brain.
    5 SI Areas for Parents to Address:
    1.) Sensory Modulation: the capacity to turn the intensity of feeling sensations either higher or lower. Acknowledge his issues are real and difficult for both of you. Tell him you have a way to help both of you with the problem Best method for both hypersensitive and hyposensitive children: Using a soft brush to brush his back, arms and legs on a regular basis throughout the day.
    2.) Working with Gravity: a child’s vestibular system constantly measures and adjusts the body’s movements in relation to gravity. An adopted child has often missed stimulation of the vestibular system. Activities to Increase Vestibular Skills: Carry him Crawl with him
    Rock with him Swing with him
    3.) Regulate Activity Level: With Heavy Work. Have a bin full of heavy beanbags for him to load and unload. Show him how to make a trail with the beanbags. Have him empty out a toy bin and then put the toys back in. 4.) Building Self-Awareness of Activity Level: If your child has SI issues, he must be taught to be aware of his own behavior and to determine when that behavior needs moderation.
    Simple System to Teach Self-Awareness: Activity Level Plate: Cut a paper plate in half and then cut one-half in quarters. Color each of the 4 quarters in the following colors and introduce them to your child: Purple: hiding inside your self (Piglet) Blue: feeling tired or sleepy like when you first wake up (Eeyore) Green: alert and ready to learn something new (Pooh) Red: moving a lot or are very busy (Tigger)
    The activity level plate should be used to talk to him about his different behaviors and help him identify his level of behavior. It should not be used to show whether an activity is good or bad, appropriate or inappropriate. 5.) A Sensory Diet. Everyone has their own set of sensory supports that keep them alert or help them to manage excess energy. Such as drinking a cold drink or jingling coins in a pocket. Your child will benefit from having a sensory diet (support) to help her manage her tendency either to rev up or to shut down. Be aware of what causes her to rev up. Incorporate calming activities regularly during the day and especially before anything stressful is to occur. If she has excess energy, direct her to herr “heavy work” — the beanbags or even a pail of rocks in the yard that she can load and unload. Be aware of what causes her to shut down. Prepare her ahead of time for these situations. Limit the situations that cause her to shut down as much as possible.
    If her SI issues interfere with your relationship with her or with her ability to play and progress developmentally, seek assessment soon. Otherwise, give her 4 to 6 months to settle down before deciding to seek help. Meanwhile, use these strategies to help her.

    Hi again – I forgot to mention that I found a store online that sells beanbags and other sensory type items: funandfunction.com

    Sorry this is so long – i didn’t want to miss anything that may be of use for you.

    • I love this reply! And while I haven’t had enough time to read the entire thing (after lunch i will!) it was incredibly reassuring to me that many of the special times I have recently implemented with Mayah are good for her. We’ve seen changes in her-and it’s definitely working-but it’s also nice to know other people have been there done that to the point a book was written. So thanks, I’m going to get this book to help out too;)
      *Tammy

  2. Sorry you are not signing up but great that you got a chance to try it! We love T4L for both my own kids and my daycare kids. I like that it gives the kids what they need in a great basic curriculum and I can add the fun stuff to our day!
    Good luck in your homeschooling year!!

    • Hi Katrina, we will definitely be signing up our daughter for t4l, just probably not David. but we haven’t made an absolute final determination yet;) we do love t4l for Mayah for sure!!! Plus she was verry excited she could use t4l at the computer lab at the ronald mcdonald house the other day while we were there waiting for her surgery.

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